Understanding Depression: How It Develops & Its Many Forms

Depression isn’t just "feeling sad"—it’s a complex interplay of biological, psychological, and social factors that disrupt a person’s ability to function. It can feel like a heavy fog dimming your thoughts, energy, and hope. But the good news? Therapy can help lift that fog, piece by piece.

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How Do We "Get" Depression?

 

Depression doesn’t have a single cause; it’s usually a combination of:

1. Biological Factors

   • Brain Chemistry: Imbalances in serotonin, dopamine, and norepinephrine can affect mood regulation.

   • Genetics: A family history of depression increases vulnerability.

   • Medical Conditions: Chronic illness, hormonal changes (e.g., postpartum), or neurological issues can contribute.

2. Psychological Factors

   • Negative Thought Patterns: Pervasive self-criticism ("I’m worthless"), hopelessness ("Nothing will ever change"), and rumination (dwelling on problems).

   • Early Trauma: Childhood abuse, neglect, or loss can shape how we process emotions later in life.

3. Environmental & Social Stressors

   • Loss & Grief: Death of a loved one, divorce, or job loss.

   • Chronic Stress: Financial strain, caregiving burdens, or social isolation.

   • Learned Helplessness: Repeated experiences of powerlessness ("No matter what I do, it won’t help").

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Depression Through the Lens of Polyvagal Theory

Polyvagal Theory (Dr. Stephen Porges) explains how our autonomic nervous system (ANS) regulates safety, connection, and survival. When it comes to depression, this theory helps us see how the body’s defense responses—not just thoughts or chemicals—can trap someone in a state of hopelessness, numbness, or exhaustion.

The Three Nervous System States:

1. Ventral Vagal (Safe & Social)

   • Healthy State: Feeling calm, connected, engaged.

   • Depression Link: When this state is inaccessible, we lose the ability to self-soothe or seek support.

2. Sympathetic (Fight/Flight)

   • Activated State: Anxiety, agitation, or anger (common in "atypical" depression with irritability).

   • Depression Link: Chronic stress keeps the body in "alarm mode," draining energy and leading to burnout.

3. Dorsal Vagal (Shutdown/Freeze)

   • Collapsed State: Numbness, dissociation, fatigue, feeling "empty."

   • Depression Link: This is where dorsal vagal shutdown plays a major role. When the brain perceives inescapable stress or trauma, it "shuts down" to conserve energy—like a circuit breaker tripping.

   • Symptoms:

     • Feeling "stuck," unable to move or think clearly.

     • Withdrawal from relationships (because connection feels impossible).

     • Physical heaviness, digestive issues, or chronic fatigue (the body slows to a survival minimum).

How Dorsal Vagal Shutdown Deepens Depression

• Isolation Becomes a Trap: The more disconnected you feel, the harder it is to engage in therapy or self-care.

• The Body "Remembers" Trauma: Past experiences (e.g., childhood neglect, abuse) can train the nervous system to default to shutdown.

• Depression’s "Numb" vs. "Agonized" Spectrum:

  • Some people experience depression as intense sadness (sympathetic-dominant).

  • Others feel nothing at all (dorsal vagal collapse).

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How Therapy Helps: Rewiring the Nervous System

 

Therapy doesn’t just talk about depression—it helps reset the nervous system to access safety and connection again.

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1. Somatic (Body-Based) Therapies

• Polyvagal-Informed Therapy: Gradually teaches the body to recognize safety (e.g., through breathwork, vocal toning, or gentle movement).

• Sensorimotor Psychotherapy: Releases "frozen" trauma stored in the body.

• Yoga or Tai Chi: Reconnects mind and body, gently stimulating the ventral vagal system.

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2. Grounding Techniques for Dorsal Vagal States

• Cold Water Splash: Activates the sympathetic system just enough to "restart" a shutdown system.

• Orienting to Safety: Name 3 neutral objects in the room ("That wall is beige. The floor is solid.").

• Humming/Singing: Vibrations stimulate the vagus nerve, shifting toward ventral vagal calm.

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3. CBT + Nervous System Awareness

• Thoughts ↔ Body Feedback Loop:

  • "I’m worthless" → dorsal vagal collapse → more hopelessness.

  • Therapy interrupts this by pairing cognitive shifts with somatic regulation (e.g., "Let’s notice how that thought makes your chest feel").

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4. Safe Relationship-Building (IPNB & Attachment Work)

• Interpersonal Neurobiology (IPNB): A supportive therapeutic relationship can co-regulate a depressed nervous system.

• Group Therapy: Social engagement (even silently) cues the ventral vagal system that "you’re not alone."

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A Hopeful Perspective

Depression isn’t just "in your head"—it’s in your nervous system. But just as shutdown learned to protect you, therapy can teach your body to relearn safety, connection, and possibility.

"Healing begins when we stop fighting the shutdown and start gently inviting the nervous system back online."

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How Therapy Helps: A Roadmap to Healing

Therapy isn’t about "fixing" you—it’s about equipping you with tools to navigate depression and reclaim your life. Here’s how different approaches work:

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1. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT): Rewiring Negative Thought Loops

• Identifies distortions: "I’m a failure" → "I’m feeling like a failure right now, but that doesn’t define me."

• Behavioral Activation: Gradually reintroduces rewarding activities (e.g., a short walk, calling a friend).

2. Psychodynamic Therapy: Exploring the Roots

• Uncovers unconscious patterns from past experiences (e.g., childhood dynamics) affecting present emotions.

• Helps resolve unresolved grief or attachment wounds.

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3. Mindfulness-Based Therapies (MBCT, ACT): Breaking Free from Rumination

• Teaches non-judgmental awareness of thoughts ("I notice I’m feeling hopeless, but it’s just a thought—not a fact").

• Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) focuses on living by values despite depressive feelings.

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4. Interpersonal Therapy (IPT): Healing Relationships

• Addresses role conflicts, social isolation, or unresolved grief contributing to depression.

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5. Behavioural Therapy: Small Steps, Big Changes

• Uses graded task assignments (e.g., "Today, I’ll get out of bed and brush my teeth").

• Reinforces positive behaviours to counteract inertia.

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6. Medication + Therapy (For Moderate-Severe Cases)

• Antidepressants (SSRIs, SNRIs) can help regulate brain chemistry, but therapy addresses the psychological habits that sustain depression.

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7. Lifestyle & Somatic Approaches

• Sleep Hygiene: Fixing disrupted sleep can significantly improve mood.

• Exercise: Releases endorphins and reduces inflammation linked to depression.

• Nutrition: Omega-3s, vitamin D, and gut health play roles in brain function.

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Final Thoughts: Depression Is Treatable

If depression feels like a prison, therapy is a key—not a magic one, but a key you learn to use yourself. It takes time, patience, and sometimes trial and error, but healing is possible.

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Absolutely. Let’s weave Polyvagal Theory—especially the role of the dorsal vagal shutdown response—into our understanding of depression and how therapy can help.

Depression Through the Lens of Polyvagal Theory

Polyvagal Theory (Dr. Stephen Porges) explains how our autonomic nervous system (ANS) regulates safety, connection, and survival. When it comes to depression, this theory helps us see how the body’s defense responses—not just thoughts or chemicals—can trap someone in a state of hopelessness, numbness, or exhaustion.

The Three Nervous System States:

1. Ventral Vagal (Safe & Social)

   • Healthy State: Feeling calm, connected, engaged.

   • Depression Link: When this state is inaccessible, we lose the ability to self-soothe or seek support.

2. Sympathetic (Fight/Flight)

   • Activated State: Anxiety, agitation, or anger (common in "atypical" depression with irritability).

   • Depression Link: Chronic stress keeps the body in "alarm mode," draining energy and leading to burnout.

3. Dorsal Vagal (Shutdown/Freeze)

   • Collapsed State: Numbness, dissociation, fatigue, feeling "empty."

   • Depression Link: This is where dorsal vagal shutdown plays a major role. When the brain perceives inescapable stress or trauma, it "shuts down" to conserve energy—like a circuit breaker tripping.

   • Symptoms:

     • Feeling "stuck," unable to move or think clearly.

     • Withdrawal from relationships (because connection feels impossible).

     • Physical heaviness, digestive issues, or chronic fatigue (the body slows to a survival minimum).

How Dorsal Vagal Shutdown Deepens Depression

• Isolation Becomes a Trap: The more disconnected you feel, the harder it is to engage in therapy or self-care.

• The Body "Remembers" Trauma: Past experiences (e.g., childhood neglect, abuse) can train the nervous system to default to shutdown.

• Depression’s "Numb" vs. "Agonized" Spectrum:

  • Some people experience depression as intense sadness (sympathetic-dominant).

  • Others feel nothing at all (dorsal vagal collapse).

How Therapy Helps: Rewiring the Nervous System

Therapy doesn’t just talk about depression—it helps reset the nervous system to access safety and connection again.

1. Somatic (Body-Based) Therapies

• Polyvagal-Informed Therapy: Gradually teaches the body to recognize safety (e.g., through breathwork, vocal toning, or gentle movement).

• Sensorimotor Psychotherapy: Releases "frozen" trauma stored in the body.

• Yoga or Tai Chi: Reconnects mind and body, gently stimulating the ventral vagal system.

2. Grounding Techniques for Dorsal Vagal States

• Cold Water Splash: Activates the sympathetic system just enough to "restart" a shutdown system.

• Orienting to Safety: Name 3 neutral objects in the room ("That wall is beige. The floor is solid.").

• Humming/Singing: Vibrations stimulate the vagus nerve, shifting toward ventral vagal calm.

3. CBT + Nervous System Awareness

• Thoughts ↔ Body Feedback Loop:

  • "I’m worthless" → dorsal vagal collapse → more hopelessness.

  • Therapy interrupts this by pairing cognitive shifts with somatic regulation (e.g., "Let’s notice how that thought makes your chest feel").

4. Safe Relationship-Building (IPNB & Attachment Work)

• Interpersonal Neurobiology (IPNB): A supportive therapeutic relationship can co-regulate a depressed nervous system.

• Group Therapy: Social engagement (even silently) cues the ventral vagal system that "you’re not alone."

5. Medication Considerations

• For Dorsal Vagal Dominance: Low-dose stimulants (e.g., bupropion) or ketamine may help "restart" motivation in severe cases.

A Hopeful Perspective

Depression isn’t just "in your head"—it’s in your nervous system. But just as shutdown learned to protect you, therapy can teach your body to relearn safety, connection, and possibility.

"Healing begins when we stop fighting the shutdown and start gently inviting the nervous system back online."

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Polyvagal Exercises

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1. Exercises to Shift Out of Dorsal Vagal Shutdown

(For numbness, dissociation, or "freeze" states)

A. Cold Exposure (Sympathetic "Jumpstart")

• What it does: Briefly activates the sympathetic nervous system to "reboot" a shutdown state.

• How to do it:

  1. Splash cold water on your face (or hold an ice pack to your cheeks/forehead for 15 sec).

  2. Alternate: Take a cold shower (start with 10 seconds, work up to 2 minutes).

• Why it works: Triggers the mammalian dive reflex, which resets the vagus nerve.

B. Vocal Toning / Humming

• What it does: Stimulates the vagus nerve (ventral vagal pathway) through vibration.

• How to do it:

  1. Sit upright, place a hand on your throat.

  2. Hum a low-pitched tone (e.g., "ommm") for 30 seconds, feeling the vibration.

  3. Repeat 3x, noticing any shift in breath or body tension.

• Bonus: Singing along to music (even badly!) also works.

C. Gentle Movement (Reconnecting to the Body)

• What it does: Signals safety to the nervous system.

• How to do it:

  1. Shake it out: Stand and gently shake your arms/legs (like a dog shaking off water).

  2. Slow stretches: Reach arms overhead, then fold forward (let gravity pull you).

  3. "Pendulation" (Somatic Experiencing): Alternate between tension/relaxation (clench fists for 5 sec, release).

2. Grounding Exercises (For Dissociation or Spacing Out)

A. 5-4-3-2-1 Technique

1. Name 5 things you see (e.g., "blue pillow").

2. 4 things you feel (e.g., "feet on floor").

3. 3 things you hear (e.g., "clock ticking").

4. 2 things you smell (e.g., "coffee").

5. 1 thing you taste (e.g., "mint gum").

B. Orienting to Safety

1. Slowly turn your head side-to-side, noticing neutral objects (e.g., "That plant is green. The door is closed.").

2. Whisper: "I am here. This is now."

3. Ventral Vagal Activation (Building Safety & Connection)

A. Half-Smile Practice (DBT)

• Gently lift the corners of your mouth (even if forced).

• Notice: Does your breath slow? Does tension ease?

B. Co-Regulation with a Pet or Person

• Pet an animal (or hug a pillow), focusing on warmth and texture.

• If with someone: Match their breathing for 1 minute.

C. "Safe Place" Visualization

1. Close your eyes, imagine a place where you felt calm (real or imagined).

2. Engage all senses: "I see sunlight. I hear waves. I smell salt air."

3. Place a hand on your heart, whisper: "I can visit here anytime."

4. For Chronic Shutdown (Daily Practices)

A. Morning "Nervous System Reset"

1. Upon waking: Stretch like a cat (arch back, reach arms).

2. Hum or gargle water (vagus nerve stimulation).

3. Step outside for 1 minute (sunlight cues the body it’s daytime).

B. Progressive Muscle Relaxation (PMR)

• Tense each muscle group (toes → forehead) for 5 sec, then release.

• Focus: Contrast between tension and relaxation.

C. "Glimmers" Journal

• Each night, write 3 tiny moments of safety/connection (e.g., "The barista smiled at me").

• Trains the brain to notice ventral vagal cues.

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Key Notes:

• Start small: Even 30 seconds of humming counts.

• Pair with therapy: These complement CBT, somatic therapy, or trauma work.

• Be patient: Dorsal vagal states take time to shift—safety is a practice.

"Your nervous system isn’t broken—it’s adapted. Now, we help it adapt again."

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Behavioural Activation Techniques

can you give me a comprehensive list of behavioural activation techniques for depression

Certainly! Behavioral Activation (BA) is an evidence-based treatment for depression that focuses on breaking the cycle of avoidance, withdrawal, and inactivity by gradually reintroducing meaningful and rewarding activities. Below is a comprehensive list of BA techniques, structured to help you take actionable steps toward improving mood and motivation.

Behavioral Activation Techniques for Depression

1. Activity Monitoring & Assessment

• Depression Log: Track daily activities and rate each for:

  • Mastery (sense of accomplishment: 1-10)

  • Pleasure (enjoyment: 1-10)

  • Mood Before/After (e.g., "Before walk: 3/10 → After: 5/10").

• Identify Patterns: Notice which activities improve mood (even slightly) and which drain energy.

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2. Activity Scheduling (Structured Planning)

• Start Small: Assign 1-2 simple tasks per day (e.g., "Shower and make bed").

• Balance Pleasure & Mastery: Mix enjoyable (e.g., "Listen to music") and achievement-based (e.g., "Pay a bill") tasks.

• Use Time Blocks: Assign activities to specific times (e.g., "10:00 AM: Walk for 5 minutes").

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3. Graded Task Assignment (Breaking Down Goals)

• Example: "Clean the house" → Break into:

  1. Pick up trash (5 min).

  2. Load dishwasher (10 min).

  3. Wipe one counter.

• Rule: If a task feels overwhelming, break it smaller.

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4. Opposite Action (Doing the Opposite of Depression’s Urges)

• Depression Urge: Isolate → Opposite Action: Text a friend.

• Depression Urge: Stay in bed → Opposite Action: Sit on the porch for 1 minute.

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5. Behavioral Experiments (Testing Depression’s Predictions)

• Prediction: "Going outside won’t help." → Experiment: Walk for 2 minutes, then rate mood.

• Prediction: "I’ll embarrass myself at the gym." → Experiment: Go for 5 minutes, observe outcomes.

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6. Social Activation

• Passive Socializing: Be around people without pressure (e.g., work in a café).

• Low-Effort Connection: Send a meme to a friend or join an online support group.

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7. Routine Restoration

• Anchor Activities: Tie tasks to existing habits (e.g., "After brushing teeth, I’ll get dressed").

• Sleep-Wake Cycle Fix: Set a consistent wake time (even if you don’t sleep well).

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8. Reward Reinforcement

• Pair Tasks with Rewards:

  • "After I shower, I’ll watch my favorite show."

  • "If I grocery shop, I’ll buy a treat."

• Celebrate Tiny Wins: Acknowledge completed tasks (e.g., "I did it!" sticky notes).

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9. Values-Based Activities (Connecting to Purpose)

• Identify Values: What matters to you? (e.g., family, creativity, nature).

• Align Actions: Even small steps (e.g., "Water a plant" for nature; "Doodle" for creativity).

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10. Contingency Management (Behavior-Outcome Linking)

• If-Then Plans:

  • "If I feel overwhelmed, I’ll step outside for 1 minute."

  • "If I finish a task, I’ll write it in my ‘Done List’."

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11. Environmental Tweaks

• Reduce Barriers:

  • Leave workout clothes by the bed.

  • Pre-pack a lunch the night before.

• Increase Cues: Place a book/guitar in sight to prompt engagement.

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12. Physical Movement (Non-Exercise Options)

• Micro-Movements: Stretch for 30 seconds, march in place, or sway to music.

• "Just Show Up": Drive to the gym/park—you don’t have to go in.

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13. Pleasure Prediction vs. Reality

• Predict: Rate how much you’ll enjoy an activity (1-10) beforehand.

• Compare: Rate actual enjoyment afterward. Often, it’s higher than predicted.

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14. Avoidance Reduction

• Identify Avoidance Loops:

  • "I skip calls → feel guilty → isolate more."

• Baby Steps: Reply to a text with an emoji instead of avoiding.

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15. "Behavioural First Aid" (For Crisis Moments)

• 5-Minute Rule: Commit to an activity for just 5 minutes (often leads to continuing).

• Distress Tolerance: Scribble on paper, rip magazines, or squeeze ice.

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Key Principles of Behavioural Activation

1. Focus on ACTION, not motivation (motivation follows action).

2. Progress > Perfection (a 2-minute walk counts).

3. Depression lies ("This is pointless" is a symptom, not truth).

"You don’t have to ‘feel better’ to start—you have to start to feel better."

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Depression Links  

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Alzheimer’s Society

Depression and dementia

https://www.alzheimers.org.uk/about-dementia/symptoms-and-diagnosis/depression-dementia

Bipolar UK (Previously called MDF – The Bipolar Organisation)
A user-led charity that works to enable people affected by bipolar disorder (manic depression) to take control of their lives. Provides information, and a wide range of support services for members. Also helps people by supporting self-management, and with a national helpline and local self-help groups throughout the UK.

Helpline: 0845 634 0540, Monday – Friday, 10:00am – 4:00pm
Email: mdf@mdf.org.uk
Website: www.mdf.org.uk

 

THE ASSOCIATION FOR POSTNATAL ILLNESS

The Association provides a telephone helpline. information leaflets for sufferers and healthcare professionals as well as a network of volunteers, telephone and postal, who have themselves experienced postnatal illness.

Helpline: 020 7386 0868, Monday, Wednesday, Friday, 10:00am – 2:00pm, and Tuesday and Thursday, 10:00am – 5:00pm
Email: info@apni.org
Website: www.apni.org

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Campaign Against Living Miserably (CALM)

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0800 58 58 58
thecalmzone.net
Provides listening services, information and support for anyone who needs to talk, including a web chat.

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Cruse Bereavement Support

0808 808 1677
cruse.org.uk
Information and support after a bereavement.

 

Depression UK

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depressionuk.org
Depression self-help organisation made up of individuals and local groups.

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Depression.uk

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Supports people with experience of depression through a pen-friend scheme, membership and newsletter. Provides information and publications and campaigns to raise awareness of depression. Also operates a network of local self-help groups throughout the UK, with support for new groups and information about existing groups

Friendship and Penfriend scheme

https://www.depressionuk.org/how-we-can-help/penfriend/

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Hub of Hope

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hubofhope.co.uk
UK-wide mental health service database. Lets you search for local, national, peer, community, charity, private and NHS mental health support. You can filter results to find specific kinds of support.

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National Childbirth Trust (NCT)

 

0300 330 0700
nct.org.uk
Provides information, support and classes for parents.

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NHS Inform

https://www.nhsinform.scot/illnesses-and-conditions/mental-health/depression/

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Papyrus HOPELINEUK

 

0800 068 41 41
07860039967 (text)
pat@papyrus-uk.org
papyrus-uk.org
Confidential support for under-35s at risk of suicide and others who are concerned about them. Open 24 hours, 7 days a week.

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Sane

 

0300 304 7000
sane.org.uk
Offers emotional support and information for anyone affected by mental health problems, including a helpline. 

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Togetherall

togetherall.com
Online mental health community (formerly called Big White Wall). Free in some areas through your GP, employer or university.

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